smug
adj
(-gger, -ggest) (usu derog 通常作贬义) too pleased with or proud of oneself, one's achievements, etc; self-satisfied 沾沾自喜的; 自满的; 自鸣得意的
a life of smug respectability 沾沾自喜的体面生活
smug optimism 自鸣得意的乐观态度.
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